I am #CREATIVE , you can’t expect me to be neat too!
mistakes i never learn from
1. not checking to see if there's any toilet paper in the bathroom
If I, as a child, claim that something awful has happened—that someone has done something terrible to me—and everyone around me acts as if nothing is the matter, then either I must be crazy, or all of them are. And when you’re a kid and your life depends on all these people, there is no choice: of course, I must be crazy.
Survivors who have actively faced their healing are some of the most lively, spunky, brave, fun, wonderful people I know. There’s something about diving into the deepest pain in life and coming out whole, that leads us to enjoy each precious moment of life, because we know it’s all we’ve got. Instead of responding to the pain of the past, survivors learn to appreciate the wild beauty of the present.
Many survivors struggle to believe the abuse happened. They don’t want to believe it. It’s too painful to think about. They don’t want to accuse family members or face the terrible loss involved in realizing “a loved one” hurt them; they don’t want to rock the boat. Many survivors were told they were crazy or liars for so long, they don’t trust themselves.
My parents recently found out I was molested by my sister. I knew that it would be hard because she’s their daughter, but I don’t think they remember that I’m their daughter too.
You can recognize survivors of abuse by their courage. When silence is so very inviting, they step forward and share their truth so others know they aren’t alone.
Jeanne McElvaney, Healing Insights: Effects Of Abuse For Adults Abused as Children (via speakoutbeheard)
Maybe someone can relate to me, maybe not, but I see everything as a huge cycle.
After I came to a realization that I was molested at the age of 14, I’ve been living in a big recycling cycle
Because the molester is a close family friend, I affiliate with him almost weekly, and it’s practically…